I sometimes give a talk called ‘3 ways to give yourself instant confidence’. In just a few minutes I share my thoughts on how to give yourself a quick and easy confidence boost wherever and whenever you need it. The second tip is: stop mind-reading. Whenever I say it, it causes consternation. ‘But I don’t… [Read more]
3 questions to ask when you start comparing yourself to other people
It’s human nature for us to compare ourselves to other people. After all, when we’re growing up we learn by copying our parents and older relatives and trying to emulate them. As we go through school, then college and start to build our careers we choose different role models and, again, we learn from and… [Read more]
How your internal bully can actually help you
You know that nagging voice that keeps telling you you’re not good enough, you’ll never make a go of it and are generally a bit useless. Well, we all have it. The good news is that you can not only learn how to manage it, but also use it as a source of wisdom. I… [Read more]
Why you should be as kind to yourself as you are to others (and how to do it)
Imagine a friend who’s having a hard time at work. His boss is always on his case, he can’t seem to do anything right and he’s thoroughly fed up. Or, if she runs her own business, she may be worried that she doesn’t have enough customers, or is working too hard and neglecting her family. … [Read more]
How to bounce back when things go wrong
Improving your resilience A key aspect of confidence is resilience, the ability to bounce back quickly when things go wrong. The American Psychological Society defines it as ‘the process of adapting well in the face of stress, trauma etc.’ But when we’re stressed, or have suffered a major setback, it can be difficult to know… [Read more]