Ever had something not turn out quite the way you planned it? A referendum or an election perhaps? Maybe a new recipe that looked delicious in the magazine but gave everyone a bad tum, or a different holiday destination that sounded lovely and relaxing but led to two weeks of boredom and arguments? Sometimes a… [Read more]
Do me a favour – stop settling and just say what you want!
I bet you often find yourself settling for something you don’t quite want or like. Sometimes it will be something unimportant, maybe you’ll go along with having dinner at a restaurant you’re not keen on, or seeing a film you don’t really fancy. Other times it will be big and serious, life affecting even – to… [Read more]
Why sometimes you just have to stop fighting.
A few years ago my husband went into hospital for a straightforward procedure that we expected to be done in a day. Instead, it uncovered a serious health problem and he was kept in hospital until they could do a major operation that saved his life. In the hospital, everything seemed chaotic and random, and… [Read more]
4 ways to stop catastrophizing, immediately
In last month’s blog, which was about something completely different, I mentioned my earliest memory of catastrophising something. When I was 8 I was out shopping with my aunt and somehow accidentally stood on the Liverpool goalkeeper’s toe. He pretended to be injured and, unaware of the joke, I suddenly became convinced that Liverpool would not… [Read more]
Why telling yourself you’re nothing special is hurting your confidence
A couple of years ago I had a client who would take a coffee break around 10.30 and listen to Popmaster on Radio 2. If I was there I joined in. I always did pretty well and they asked if I had ever thought of going on the show. I shook my head. They asked… [Read more]