As I sat down to write this blog I googled ‘perfect Christmas’. It threw up 32.1 million hits. I narrowed it down and just searched news, that gave me 16.7 million hits. All of the popular UK newspapers and magazines had recent articles about the perfect Christmas dinner, the perfect Christmas gift, perfect Christmas music, books,… [Read more]
Are you a mind-reader? Here’s why you should stop it, now.
I sometimes give a talk called ‘3 ways to give yourself instant confidence’. In just a few minutes I share my thoughts on how to give yourself a quick and easy confidence boost wherever and whenever you need it. The second tip is: stop mind-reading. Whenever I say it, it causes consternation. ‘But I don’t… [Read more]
3 questions to ask when you start comparing yourself to other people
It’s human nature for us to compare ourselves to other people. After all, when we’re growing up we learn by copying our parents and older relatives and trying to emulate them. As we go through school, then college and start to build our careers we choose different role models and, again, we learn from and… [Read more]
How your internal bully can actually help you
You know that nagging voice that keeps telling you you’re not good enough, you’ll never make a go of it and are generally a bit useless. Well, we all have it. The good news is that you can not only learn how to manage it, but also use it as a source of wisdom. I… [Read more]
Why you should be as kind to yourself as you are to others (and how to do it)
Imagine a friend who’s having a hard time at work. His boss is always on his case, he can’t seem to do anything right and he’s thoroughly fed up. Or, if she runs her own business, she may be worried that she doesn’t have enough customers, or is working too hard and neglecting her family. … [Read more]